Mormon Grown Gay
The intent of this book is to encourage and inspire individuals to love who they are when they find themselves outside their cultural norm, and to thrive in their difference instead of striving to change or hide it. Brandea does this through sharing her own story, a long and bumpy, sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking road to self love and acceptance. This book is not limited to Mormons who are gay. It speaks to a larger audience of any who feel demoralized and judged for being different than the majority around them when they are true to who they really are.
It's a story of one who deviated from the heterosexual majority knee deep in the Mormon heartland, and underwent considerable religious and self persecution as a result. Through many experiences, failures, attempts at otherness, and finally success in self acceptance, she has shows that a truly happy ending awaits if you can learn to embrace who you are, who you love, and allow your highest self to emerge.
Her secondary intention is to assist those who are trying to help, love, support, fix, or understand the people going through this experience. By sharing the stories and experiences offered by her family and friends, she shows the many different perspectives that loved ones go through. Their perspectives coupled with hers can help guide your actions to be optimally conducive to healing and progress, while avoiding the murky and discordant pitfalls of divisive blaming, shaming, and disassociation. Foster parents, social workers, parents, family members, gays or bisexual, transgendered queers, counselors and therapists, teachers, Mormons, those fascinated with Mormonism, atheists, Muslim, Catholics or confused friends can find insightful support and solace through these well written, honest accounts.
How do you get through this fracture? How do you gain faith in the fact that you are perfect the way you were made? How do you reconcile the perceived loss of your culture, family support or your spirituality, and how do you find new spiritual building blocks having only ever known one way? How do you then convince others that you're not broken and you don't need fixing?
This enlightening memoir offers deep and valuable insight to an often difficult and tumultuous time. She brings levity to the topic, and provides an entertaining and uplifting journey through the experience of discovering and embracing the higher self that is awaiting discovery in all of us.
Mormon Grown Gay Book Reviews:
I'm going to add to the previous five star reviews -- this book is excellent for anyone's diligent desire to truly understand how a young person who is gay has to rectify that with their religion, family , and themselves. Kelley really does a great job explaining this path to those of us who have not had to walk in her shoes. I think the book would be exceptionally helpful for a young person just beginning to figure out that they are gay, or for their parents. Beautifully written, entertaining, and REAL, this book gets to the gist of how being part of a faith community while traveling this road is so difficult -- and how, eventually, people do come around to understanding and acceptance.
What Mormon readers should know about this book is that Kelley manages to explain what it is like to be gay in the church WITHOUT being bitter and angry. I've never seen anyone work harder to keep their book fair and upbeat. Kind words are given about how beneficial the church was to the author, and how it continues to be a part of her makeup and outlook. I think that anyone within the church could read this book and feel comfortable about it's information. My hope is that a lot of people within the church will do just that.
I find it inspiring when another person shares the personal challenges they’ve encountered in life. There is something courageous about that level of vulnerability. I always seem to walk away with a greater understanding of how other people tick and the surprisingly common themes we share with the challenges we all wrestle with in life.
Mormon Grown Gay is an insightful and inspiring memoir on what it feels like to be different, confused, and struggle with acceptance in a culture with expectations that are widely divergent from what one feels in ones own heart. I wish I had encountered a book like this when I was a teen and young adult attempting to reconcile the feelings of love and attraction for someone of the same gender while active in the Mormon church. I’m sure I wouldn’t have felt so alone and might have found self-acceptance much sooner than I actually did. Reading it as an adult and out of the closet for years, I gained additional perspective and felt that bond of knowing there are other people who have shared similar experiences and feelings as me. I also gained faith in knowing patience and love will overcome the trials faced in some relationships. “If you are going through this, or have already, don’t give up hope. You may have people in your life you think will never change. If they are willing to have any interaction, give them the chance to do what they’re comfortable doing to stay in touch;… keep the door open… It can get better."
I would highly recommend this book to anyone struggling with their sexuality as well as to those who have loved ones looking to understand and support those in that space. It’s an excellent read - full of heart and some pretty funny narratives.
ByKim Radai on December 2, 2016
This book is a wonderful insight into the struggles the LGBTQ community encounters when it comes to self and outward acceptance. Many people struggle with their identity, where they came from, and where they want to go. I too was brought up in a religious family and community. I still struggle with being open about being a lesbian in certain aspects of my personal and professional life. This book has enlightened me to the struggles, not unlike my own, but mostly inspired me to accept myself for who I am and live a loving life the best way possible. Thank you Brandea for putting your heart and humor into these pages.
By Lex on January 12, 2017
What an encouraging story of love. I was inspired over and over again as I read the author experiences of self-discovery as she struggled to align who she is despite going against the culture norms that she loved and identified with as a child. Whether you or someone you love is struggling with issues that go against the cultural grain with which you live, this book can help you look past the negatives and open your heart to truly loving yourself and others.
This is a deeply heartfelt and profound memoir that will make you both laugh and cry. For anyone that has experienced the process of coming out, or supported anyone that has, this book is a must read. It will resonate on so many levels. And for those who are questioning or going through the process, this book is one you must have now. Seriously. Get. It. Now. You will be so thankful and will never look back.
By Debij on February 7, 2017
Wonderful and informative book. I laughed and cried through the whole thing.
By Kathryn on January 15, 2017
Oh My gosh what an enlightening view. The more I learn, the more I understand and love the kids that grow up feeling weird, learn to thrive and finally soar. Loved this writer, clever and lovable. Highly recommended.
By tracy on December 11, 2016
What an insightful and kind book about the social and family pressures put on a young person coming out. Pain and fear, handled with grace and courage on both sides of the process. Showing that love always wins.